The Auditory Man

The Auditory Man

When your auditory man walks in the front door, he may be totally oblivious to your new hairdo. He’s mostly interested in hearing about your day and telling about his.

He sees you, but he really cares more about what you have to say. He also has feelings, but they’re not as primary to him as what he hears. Your auditory man’s feelings are triggered by what he sees.

An auditory or hearing man relates better to music than pictures. He is more tuned in to the inner logic of words than he is to feelings. He is easy to talk to and he loves long conversations about almost anything. Even when he’s not talking out loud, he’s having conversations-with himself, in his own head.

Sometimes, you might feel left out when your auditory man’s having a long discussion with himself about something. But once you understand how to get into his conversations, you’ll find good communication is easy with him.

The auditory man often extremely logical and he remember what he heats better than others do. So be careful what you say to him; he won’t forget. He’ll listen carefully not only to what you say but also to what you don’t say (the things you leave out), and he’ll be particularly affected by the tone of your voice.

Don’t think you can hide things from him on the phone. He is an astute reader of vocal intonations. All you have to say is “Hello,” and he knows whether you’re happy or sad, relaxed or stressed.

The Auditory personality

An auditory man tends to be more of laid-back, mellow person than a visual man. He doesn’t have to run around to “see what’s happening.”

His favorite activities are reading, doing projects, listening to music and talking- often passive pursuits where he sits still and listens, or talks. Although he’s usually doing something, it’s hardly ever something that involves a lot if bustling around. He’s more a cerebral type who lives in his head. He’ll often be happy just hearing you tell him about something, rather than having to go see it for himself.

There are two types of auditory man. One is always playing the stereo, talking, or filling the silences in one way or another. The other kind of auditory person seems to hate any sound at all sometimes (often when he’s working or trying to concentrate). The reason is that any sound is an interruption of the conversation he’s having with himself, particularly if it’s not a sound he’s chosen.

In either case, your auditory man will listen acutely and react to what he hears rather than to what he sees. His feelings are stimulated by hearing the right words said to him in the right tone of voice. As long as you are ware of his sensitivity to sounds, and know how to ask him questions in his auditory love language, he will tell you if he wants music, conversation or quit.

If you want him to remember something, just tell him. You don’t have to draw him maps.

Usually, auditory men will prefer talking about anything to looking at it. When he’s shopping for a new car, he’d rather make lots of phone calls and find out all about the cars available and their features. The last thing he needs to do, after getting all the information and discussing it in his head, is go and look at the actual car.

He prefers talking about how things sound to how they look or feel. He finds it easier to talk about feelings than the visual man, but only because he finds it easier to talk about most anything.

You’re very auditory man may hate it when you talk a lot on the phone to your friend, especially if the tone is very intimate and he’s in the room. He feels as if you are giving away something that belongs to him. And remember, even if he’s in the other room with the door closed, he’s listening. Not a sound escapes him.

He can sometimes get upset for what appears tot be no reason at all. Everything seemed fine moment ado- and then all of a sudden he’s ranting and raving. You are surprise and don’t know what happened. That’s because he’s been having a discussion in his head and arguing for hours, maybe days or months, with himself before he even lets you in on what’s going on.

Your auditory man hates screaming and yelling, especially if you do it. You can say almost anything to him as long as you keep you tone pleasant. It’s sometimes infuriating to be angry with an auditory man, because the more you yell at him, the less he listens.

The auditory man is like to be a “ little professor” type who loves to tell other people how and why they should do what he says. He likes to explain things in great detail.

Women with auditory men often complain because their men are so unsympathetic or unfeeling. He’s really no more unfeeling than any other man, except that he does tend to be very analytical. Tell him about something that upsets you and instead of sympathizing, which is what you really want, the auditory man starts analyzing the situation and running down all the possible solutions.

If what you really want is a hug, you will have to tell your auditory man in no uncertain terms. Thank him for his analysis but tell him, “I hear what you’re saying and those all sound like good an idea, but tight now, what sounds best is a hug.”

An auditory man prefers long telephone conversations that to face to face talks. He’s a wonderful conversationalist and can be the life of the party when he gets started. He is often more “flexible” than the visual man just because he doesn’t care too much how things look. That means he’ll wear the clothes you pick out for him and let you choose the décor at home.

He has the ability to organize his thoughts into a great logical debate. Unfortunately, he doesn’t organize his belongings as well as he does his thoughts. Whenever he tries, he begins to have long discussions in his head about what goes where and all the future ramifications of his choice. He never does get around to putting things in order. However, he’s likely to get very fussy over picking out a stereo that sounds right.

The best way to let an auditory man know you love him is to tell him as often as possible. He needs to hear you say it over and over again. There is probably a certain tome of voice he needs to hear and a particular set of words. He wants you to say certain things in a special way.

If you don’t have pet names for him, think of some. If you don’t have special little things you say to him, make some up. One woman found that her auditory man responded best to baby talk, another woman found out that her man loved it whenever she called him “Daddy”. Another found that her auditory man thrilled to a deep sultry tone; another auditory am loved animal noises and another foreign accents.

Auditory men often seem moody because they are so sensitive to certain noises. A squeaking chair, the changing of a spoon in ice tea or against a bowl, or the whir of a sewing machine can set them off. If you’re not auditory yourself, your auditory man’s reaction may seem unreasonable, but it’s not. When your auditory man gets grumpy, you can turn his mood around by switching to one of hid favorite sounds.

How the Auditory Man Likes to Spend His Time

These are extra clues, to be used to verify information you already got by watching his eye movements and listening to the words he use, not as primary indicators.

• Listening to his stereo or going to concerts
• Reading (when visual man read they see pictures. When auditory men read, they hear the words.)
• Eavesdropping on other people’s conversations
• Listening to the television (Auditory men don’t have to watch the screen to enjoy TV.)
• Playing a musical instrument
• Talking on the telephone
• Giving speeches or talks
• Teaching
• Listening to lectures
• Operating a C.B. radio
• Writing scripts for future conversations in his head
• Listening to the radio
• Philosophizing
• Studying
• Listening to you
• Recording favorite concerts or talks
• Writing
• Enjoying the sounds of nature, the ocean, the birds, etc
• Giving advice
• Programming a computer
• Talking
• Arguing
• Replaying conversations in his head or even out loud ( and wondering if he said the right thing or imagining what he should have said)

What the Auditory Man Does for a Living

The following are secondary, not primary indicators. Your man may be very auditory and not involved in any of these professions or he could be involved on one of these and be a visual or feelings man.

One woman was sure her husband was visual because he worked in television. He turned out to be auditory. He wrote the script for the announcers; the pictures were of secondary interest to him. Another woman thought her writer husband was visual because he wrote on a computer and watched the screen all the time. It turned out that he was hearing the words first, and then writing them down. The writing was a visual representation of his auditory sound track. Be sure to find out what your man really joys about his profession since that is the main indicator of his Love Language.

• Ear doctor
• Music Producer
• Musician
• Sound engineer
• Stereo salesman
• Piano tuner
• Teacher
• Radio announcer
• Psychologist
• Lawyer
• Counselor
• Editor
• Writer
• Salesman
• Manager
• Computer programmer
• Writer